{Book Review} How To Get A Date Worth Keeping: Be Dating In Six Months Or Your Money Back by Dr. Henry Cloud

I absolutely loved this book!!

No, I wasn’t dating in six months and No, I didn’t get my money back because I checked the book out from the library, BUT this book totally changed my view on men, dating, and myself.

He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys (The Newly Expanded Edition) by Behrendt, Greg, Tuccillo, Liz Expanded (2006) Hardcover is a book turned to film, that is as the title suggests, a relationship guide to help ladies determine when ‘a guy just doesn’t like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship.’

ACT LIKE A LADY THINK LILKE A MAN by Steve Harvey{Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man}: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment, another relationship book turned to film, is a book that encourages women to stop seeking advice from other women ‘when no one but another man can tell them how to find and keep a man.’

I enjoyed both movies and while some of the information in both of these books may be helpful, the focus is for women to try to figure out the opposite sex, to determine if he doesn’t like you or to act enough like him to get him to want you.

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by Dr. Henry Cloud

The difference in these two books and How To Get A Date Worth Keeping: Be Dating In Six Months Or Your Money Back (which I would LOVE to see turned into a movie) is that instead of focusing on the opposite sex, Dr. Cloud encourages you to focus on YOU!

In so many words, this Ph.D of clinical psychology explains that we get in and are attracted to dysfunctional relationships, because we are dysfunctional someway internally.

For example, I remember a story of a guy who was attracted to beautiful yet shallow women and couldn’t figure out why he wasn’t attracting any one with substance. After some soul searching he realized he was putting his worth and value in the attractiveness of the females he dated. In other words, the prettier the girl, the better he assumed he was as a person. At this discovery he began working on his self-esteem and confidence. This allowed him to be himself and no longer find value by how the girl he dated looked only, but also by how much character she had.

Dr. Cloud-author of the bestselling Boundaries series of relationship books-explains that feelings are indicators, not necessarily dictators. Meaning, just because you feel a certain way doesn’t mean you have to act on it BUT he does encourage us to take inventory and research why, how, and when those feelings began, in an effort to develop into healthier people.

There is another story in the book where a woman realized that being super self-conscious of her body image caused her to lack eye contact with men who were interested and appear unavailable.

I could go on and on about this book, but my intentions aren’t to tell you the book, only to tell you about the book, so you’ll be inspired to read it. Again, this book totally changed my view on men, dating and myself. I recommend this book to anyone–no everyone who is currently dating. And I challenge anyone who reads this book to allow themselves to be developed into ‘a Date Worth Keeping’.

If you do happen to check it out come back and comment how you liked it!

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