Submission vs. Communication

Submission vs. Communication

Most women cringe at the thought of being submissive. When talking to my bestfriend she did everything in her power to describe how she knew she needed work in the area of submission without ever saying the word.

Submission isn’t as hard for some as it is for others. Some may even look at it as a challenge and welcome the act or thought of being submissive in order to prepare them for the trials they will very likely face in a future spousal relationship.

After re-reading some spiritually influenced non-dating advice, I realized that as much as I WANT to get out of the driver’s seat and let my dude drive, I too may need to work on not always wanting being in control and learn to be led.

Here is an exert from the note:Scripture says: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor
from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22).

Note. Who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time,
God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them

Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again – WAIT
until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing
the relationship. You may have an inkling that he is the one, but God will
use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity
to woo you – this is your first act of submission. Jesus set the standard
for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the

With that being said and understood, the problem I have or have been having is men who lack communication skills.

Women are not mind readers!!!

And it’s not a matter of trying to read in between the lines and make things seem like they are there when they actually aren’t.

I’m talking about genuine attempts to fellowship that fall through because of silly assumptions instead of simple, specific, plain ole communication.

One thing I hear A LOT of men confess is their fear of rejection. NEWS FLASH men!!! Women don’t like feeling rejected either! But for whatever reason we seem to be able to bounce back a little bit quicker.

I have always wondered this one thing of men: Is not being rejected worth risking never finding exactly what you’re looking for because you skipped taking the risk of asking and actually getting a yes one day?

Seems to me most men need a lesson in Confidence 101–What REAL swag is and how NOT to be cocky because it’s unattractive! (By the way, the word swag will be officially retired after this note)

How can you have followers, if there aren’t any leaders…

If it’s me let me know, because I’m totally confused.
How are women supposed to submit to any person or thing that hasn’t fully, specifically & simply been disclosed and communicated?


Denyce Nikole



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